Daily Mystic Messages - Opting In
When we take on a task like loving ourselves unconditionally, especially if it's coming after years of struggle with self-abuse or self-criticism and things like that, this can seem like an insurmountable task. And one of the funny things that we do with an insurmountable task is we sometimes look for failures to prove to ourselves that it's not worth the effort, or it couldn't possibly work.
We look for things that will support the story of it being insurmountable. Now we want to be able to stay out of that because what happens when we start to get into that mode is we quit. We tell ourselves “I just need to take a break, or, I just need to stop this, or, I just need to do something different” and we opt out of doing the work.
Maybe we're not seeing the direct results in the way that we think that they should be showing up so we look for a reason to opt-out. I know for some, one of the main choices of opting out is dying. It’s like saying “I'll just quit all together”. But you don't have to be having suicidal ideation to be opting out like that.
It often happens in very small and subtle ways. So what we want to be looking for, especially today, and right now is in what areas you might be opting out. Are you opting out of work, opting out of making a stand for yourself or saying what's on your mind, or doing the things that you know that you need to be doing to care of yourself or saying congrats for being true to your commitments to yourself?
Look for those areas that you might be opting out of even in small ways. Maybe you already know some but start to write them down and reflect on that list. More importantly, ask yourself what needs to happen or what do I need to do to opt back in. That's where the real magic happens.
It's not a one-time thing. It's something that we'll need to continue to opt into time and time and time again for ourselves, especially with something that can seem like such a big deal.
But I guarantee that every time we opt-in, we'll be taking one more step and before you know it, you're in a totally different place.
So opt back in today.