Daily Mystic Messages - Indebted

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Daily Mystic Messages - Indebted
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I’ve had some pretty dysfunctional relationships in my time. And one of the common factors was a tit-for-tat system where we kept score.

Of course there was no formal system, so each person kept tally in their heads and pull out the trump card whenever they wanted something. The other person would either trot out their “list” or begrudgingly comply, like they’d just lost a round.

Like I said…dysfunctional…

I share this because when I started transitioning to a healthy and functional relationship this was one of the first things to go.

And it revealed an underlying pattern of constant score-keeping and obligation in other areas of my life as well, including my relationship with myself.

It’s important to recognize that there are fundamental aspects of being a human being- debts, if you will- that can NEVER be repaid.

Your parents being on that list, no matter what your childhood or upbringing was like. Without them, you simply would not exist.

Or how about Mother Earth and all of her magical wonder. The air we breathe. The water we drink. The food we eat. The spectacular light shows of sunsets, the moon and stars.

The fricking SUN for God’s sake. Life on earth wouldn’t be possible without it.

Of course all of the modern conveniences we enjoy, including indoor plumbing, grocery stores, delivery services, and on and on.

That’s why there is a verse in the bhagavad gita that says, “The best of us are those who are best at repaying.”

It recognizes the incredible gifts we receive just by being alive and invites us to assume an attitude of service.

This is activated by gratitude- for all of the things listed above and so much more.

Now, getting back to our original topic, when we start to feel like we “Owe” people, and we’re keeping score, it’s easy to slip into a sort of pettiness, and sets us up for future disappointment and resentment.

In order to live freely, we have to learn to give freely and also receive freely. This includes releasing others from their debts to us, as well as releasing ourselves from our unspoken debts to others.

Little by little this sets us free to go our own way. To express ourselves and our gifts more fully and to embody a higher level of service toward yourself, the people in your life, and the world at large.

Because it’s impossible to serve at your fullest when you’re playing little games of tit-for-tat, or staying in destructive or draining circumstances because you feel like you “owe it” someone.

A word of warning. If you’re trying to shift this in relationships, it involves some clear and loving communication. A reckoning of sorts where you wipe the slate clean.

So write yourself a permission slip to wipe the slate clean. Have the conversations you need to have, and start enjoying a new sense of freedom and ease in your life.

If you owe anything to anyone, you owe it to yourself to live the fullest life possible. That’s a gift that keeps on giving.

 I hope you enjoy it and have an amazing day.

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